Week 43: #52 Ancestors – Quite the Character
By Eilene Lyon
It can be difficult to find personal anecdotes about people who lived even just three generations back. I’ve found quite a bit about my great-grandfather, Guy Halse, but very little for his one sibling.
Hillard LeRoy Halse was also born in Winneshiek County, Iowa, on May 23, 1872, 16 months before Guy. The name Hillard appears to come from his grandfather, Robert Hillier Halse. But he always went by the name Roy. From the few facts I’ve been able to glean about Roy’s life, it seems to me that he may have had some trouble “growing up.”
I don’t have any confirmed pictures of Roy, though I have one “possible” featured above. I’ve never come across any photo of Roy and Guy with their parents, Dick and Lucy.
Roy married Rose Irene Owens on December 3, 1896, just two months before “little brother” Guy married their cousin, Mabel P. Cutting. Roy was 24 and Rose was 18 at the time of their marriage. They had two sons together: Raymond, born in 1897, and Roland in 1901.

Shortly after marriage, Roy farmed on a rented place in Dexter Township, Codington County. By 1910, he owned a farm in neighboring Egeland Township, Day County, South Dakota. Before 1919, though, Roy and Rose divorced. South Dakota was well known for its easy divorces, and I find many instances of it among my relatives who lived there.
Roy moved back home with his parents. Rose remarried in February 1919 to Frederick Knopf. A few months later, Roy and Rose’s older son, Raymond, married 16-year-old Alma Wellnitz, the daughter of German immigrants. They had no children. Roland Halse lived with his mother, Rose, and stepfather in 1920.

I have not yet determined a cause, but Raymond Halse died in 1926 at the age of 29, leaving Alma a widow at the very young age of 23. Research in South Dakota is not easy, and even if you travel there, you cannot easily access records; my experience is that I have not been allowed to copy anything I do find. Hopefully someday I can learn more about what happened to these people.
Here’s where it gets weird. Sometime between 1926 and 1930 (I’ve not found a record), Alma decided to marry her father-in-law, Roy Halse, a man who was 30 years her senior! Apparently the arrangement worked for them. They stayed together until Roy’s death in 1944. Alma outlived her first husband by 67 years, and her second (father of the first), by 49 years.

Feature image: Dick and Lucy Halse (center), parents of Roy and Guy, with their adopted daughter, Ada Coffey, about 1918. The man at left could be Roy Halse, who divorced around then and moved in with his parents. (Courtesy P. Neal)
Sources:
Ancestry.com. U.S., Evangelical Lutheran Church in America Church Records, 1781-1969 [database on-line]. Lehi, UT, USA: Ancestry.com Operations, Inc., 2015.
Roy Halse marries Rose Owen. Argus-Leader (Sioux Falls, SD), December 11, 1896, p. 2 – via Newspapers.com.
https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/84611004/hal
Roland Halse birth. Ancestry.com. South Dakota, Birth Index, 1856-1918 [database on-line]. Provo, UT, USA: Ancestry.com Operations Inc, 2003.
Roy Halse. Year: 1900; Census Place: Dexter, Codington, South Dakota; Page: 7; Enumeration District: 0100; FHL microfilm: 1241548 – via Ancestry.com.
Roy Halse. Year: 1910; Census Place: Egeland, Day, South Dakota; Roll: T624_1479; Page: 10B; Enumeration District: 0144; FHL microfilm: 1375492 – via Ancestry.com.
Rose Halse and Frederick Knopf. Ancestry.com. South Dakota, Marriages, 1905-2018 [database on-line]. Lehi, UT, USA: Ancestry.com Operations Inc, 2005.
Alma Wellnitz and Raymond Halse. Ancestry.com. South Dakota, Marriages, 1905-2018 [database on-line]. Lehi, UT, USA: Ancestry.com Operations Inc, 2005.
Roland Halse. Year: 1920; Census Place: Blooming Valley, Grant, South Dakota; Roll: T625_1719; Page: 4B; Enumeration District: 152 – via Ancestry.com.
Heleard L. Halse, Certificate 220207. Ancestry.com. South Dakota, Death Index, 1879-1955 [database on-line]. Provo, UT, USA: Ancestry.com Operations, Inc., 2004.
Alma Halse. Ancestry.com. U.S., Social Security Death Index, 1935-2014 [database on-line]. Provo, UT, USA: Ancestry.com Operations Inc, 2014.
That’s quite a web of family relationships! I didn’t know that South Dakota was known for easy divorces. (I know very little about South Dakota to begin with.)
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Back in the late 19th century, it was a destination like Reno or Vegas became later.
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I learn something new every day!
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It might have been the end of the progressive era there.😉
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😀
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Wow, that is bizarre! She was so young when she married Raymond and when she was widowed. Perhaps they were just two lonely people needing a companion and made a go of it?
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Maybe so. It wasn’t like there was a shortage of men her age, I don’t think. I’d have to dig a bit deeper to be certain, though.
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An interesting story. Maybe there was a shortage of men though, as so many died in WW1 or maybe they married for financial reasons?
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Those are certainly possibilities, Joni.
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The numbers are astounding to me, Eilene. Outliving two different husbands by a combined 116 years??
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Hahaha! Yeah, she was a regular Methuselah!
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Seriously!
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Again a very mysterious story… could be a novel. I believe it happened quite often before, marriages between relatives, but still… would be great to know the reason 🙂
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If I ever learn more, I’ll do a follow up post.
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I know, right?
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I hope you are able to find more clues. I’m really enjoying following your family research.
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Thanks, Sarah. It seems I’ve already profiled the real outrageous characters in my tree, so this one was a bit of a stretch. But I’m sure more stories will come to light – they always do!
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I just can’t imagine marrying my father-in-law…just doesn’t seem right…Hopefully they were happy! Why is South Dakota so strict on accessing records?
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I don’t know why they make it so difficult, honestly. Marrying my father-in-law? Eeeeek!
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Right??
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What a story! And that is a very odd arrangement but we never know what will work in a relationship so who am I to judge?
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Nope. No judgment here. Just an unusual circumstance.
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Lol. I sort of want to judge…. but it was a different time back then.
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You always come up with some amazing twists and turns in your stories! Fascinating.
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You mean you didn’t see that coming?😆
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You uncover the most fascinating bits of information!
Marrying your father-in-law… yeesh! That sounds almost… um… biblical actually. Pretty sure there’s a story of that somewhere in there. Even so…. yeesh!
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Let me know when you come across the reference.🙂 People have always managed to do unexpected things. No need for fiction.😆
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Great post! It’s good you are documenting that tricky relationship so people aren’t confused later on.
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There are some odd relationships out there. I remember a guy in a class of mine in high school who decided to sleep with his girlfriend’s mother and got her pregnant. So his baby girl was half-sister to his ex-girlfriend.
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I’m fascinated to know that South Dakota was known for easy divorces. I’ve no relatives [to my knowledge] that went there for a divorce, but it seems like a fun fact. Alma’s story is fascinating. You just have to wonder why she married who she did…
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I do hope to learn more about their lives.
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