By Eilene Lyon
The mystery about this portrait isn’t “Who,” but all the other Ws and Hs of inquiry. The subject is my mother, Sylvia Jean (Smith) Halse (1936–2023).
It’s been a little over two years since Mom died. My brother and I were just hours too late getting to Oregon for a final goodbye. But we took care of the arrangements, had a private viewing at the funeral home, and ensured that her wishes were carried out. She had prearranged the burial of her cremains and bought a headstone.

Mom never owned much. What she did have dwindled precipitously as she moved from a regular apartment to a smaller one at the retirement community, then briefly to assisted living, and permanently to the memory care unit.
I was never there for the moves, so I don’t know what happened to many of her possessions that should have gone to family, such as her guitar and violin, and a quilt I made for her. I suspect that as her memory faded and owning things became less important, people asked her for these things (or she offered them) and she gladly gave them away.
After we finished at the funeral home, brother and I cleared out her room in memory care. Some items we left to be donated to the resale store on site. I had previously removed things such as her photo albums and important papers (so they wouldn’t get thrown away by accident). Among her belongings was this portrait, rolled up in pink and white papers.

By the time Mom wrote this note on the pink cover, she had obviously forgotten the time and circumstances of its creation. When, where, and why was it painted? How (sitting or from a photo) and by whom? The backing is canvas, such as is used with oil and acrylic paints, but which type is it? Did it have some particular purpose? Was there an associated special event in her life? Why was it never framed and hung?

Mom’s face does look quite young in the portrait, but the hairstyle looks late 60s to me. There are crows feet around the eyes, too. I have a few pictures showing her with the bangs, and I remember how she teased her hair in back to give it a puffy look. What I don’t recall is ever seeing this portrait until after her death. And no one remains to tell its story.

Update, December 1, 2025:
In looking for some other photographs, I came across the one the painting was based on. It bears the date Feb 1966. We lived in Richmond, Virginia, at the time. This was taken about a month before Mom’s 30th birthday. Perhaps that occasion was the reason the painting was done. It still does not tell me who painted it or why it was never framed and displayed.


What a mystery! She does look older than high school age. I wonder if she had friends (a friend) in the retirement community who painted as a hobby? Perhaps it was an attempt to combine mom in retirement age with a more youthful remembered hair style? All speculation of course.
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That seems unlikely. This paper wrapping looks quite old, and I don’t have any photos like that someone could have worked from. But it’s an interesting thought. Her father liked to paint, but not portraits, that I’m aware of. And that was later in life, after retirement.
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A lovely portrait, and yes, it certainly appears she was older than high school age. Are there any other family members who might remember it?Love all those 60s photos!!!
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No, unfortunately. No one can remember anything about it. It was such a surprise to me!
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How sad that the story of the painting is lost to time.
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I know, and in such a short time it seems. Maybe I’ll frame it and give it to my niece, Mom’s only grandchild.
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That would be a nice gesture.
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I think she might like to have it, but who really knows with youngsters? She did not really know my mom.
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True.
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I hope you find some answers to this interesting mystery about your mother!
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For all my research skills, I’m stumped on this one!
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Hmmm. Interesting to think about and guess
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All these mysteries we leave behind!
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I can’t believe I had no idea she had this. If I’d known a decade earlier, maybe should could have given me some information.
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I think that’s all I can do!
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Not high school since she didn’t even have bangs in high school. I think the 1966 photo is closer to how she looks in the portrait than the 1969 photo. But it also could have been later than that. If she has crow’s feet, that seems more like her 40s—so in the 1970s??
I assume there is no marking or initials for the artist.
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No clues on the painting itself. I can’t even fathom where to go on this to find answers. If I ever come across a photo that looks like this, it might be a place to start.
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I wonder whether it was a portrait based on a photo. If you can find a photo of your mom in that outfit, that might be a clue.
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Yeah, so far no luck with that. I’m wondering if a friend was a painter and did it for Mom, but then maybe Mom didn’t like it all that much. I keep things people make for me that I can’t quite bring myself to get rid of, even if I don’t like them!
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An intriguing, and seemingly insoluble, mystery. It’s sad when there is no-one left to answer questions. I sometimes come up against things that I wish I knew or had asked my parents.
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I find that more with my grandparents, but it is true of my parents as well. The questions always seem to arise long after the possibility of answering them has passed. Though my aunt and dad are still living, they can’t remember stuff very well, not even about themselves!
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I lost my mom in 2023, too. She went from home to assisted living to memory care also. We lost a lot of her things including the opal necklace she wore almost every day. The daughter of her second husband held a garage sale with her things. My brother and I inquired about her Lenox wedding china. She said she had it in the garage sale, but a friend of hers told her not to sell it because it was valuable. Long story short, I now have her wedding china and am thankful for it. She gave me her silver flute before she was in memory care. I love playing it. I’m glad you got your mom’s portrait and I hope you solve the mystery of when it was painted. It’s beautiful.
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I wish I could have given Mom’s instruments to my niece, who plays violin and is a talented musician. It did bother me when those went missing. Nothing to be done about it, though. I can’t imagine how I’d ever solve this mystery. We moved a lot (Army), so unless I had an exact date, I wouldn’t even know where to start. Maybe a friend of hers painted it. Hard to say.
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Instruments are special keepsakes.
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They really are, even if they aren’t a special brand.
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I agree!
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Those are beautiful images of your Mum. The stories of missing items in resthome. If by horrible chance I have to go into one I will be playing Pink Floyd very loudly in defiance of being held captive. My Mum has been in one for 4 years, Parkinsons and now partial dementia. What is it about people claiming a persons possessions without consultation from others. Pathetic really.
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I can’t really say what happened. Maybe my aunt had something to do with it, but she would not be someone to discuss it with. I know that this Quaker facility has the best staff I could possibly imagine. But they don’t really monitor things like that. I believe my cousin took a painting, but he may have gotten permission from my brother. Family!!
Well, I agree with you on your approach. I do not want to ever be put in such a place. Another blogger shared an article about three nuns who were in their 80s and the last ones in the convent. In December 2023 they were put in a care home without their consent. They broke out and with the help of former students broke into the closed convent and there they are today!
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Hahaha, brilliant and what an inspiration. Good on the old girls 😉
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I hope you learn more about the portrait Eilene – you are always such a good detective in uncovering all the info about the history of portraits, even for those you don’t know. Was there a neighbor close to your family that might be able to shed more light on the photo?
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We lived too many places, Linda. Dad was in the Army while I was growing up. I can recall a few of Mom’s friends, and maybe one of them painted it. But I doubt I could track them down.
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That’s too bad Eilene – luckily you’ve got the portrait and it was not given away through the years like your mom’s other possessions.
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Thanks, Linda.
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That must be so frustrating for you, especially when there is no one to ask. It is a good portrait!
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I was astonished to find it. She had so few things and I thought I’d seen it all!
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Makes me want to leave a note the secret to the safe is 72-64- blank space
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😂
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😂😂😂
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The portrait needs a story. You could write one about it. No one said the story had to be gospel truth, it just needs to be believable.
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That could be funny!
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Beautiful photos 😍
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Thank you.
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What a surprising find!
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I have no idea how or why she kept it a secret.
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You may want to get used to not knowing.
It’s a great story though!!
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Oh believe me, there’s a lot of “not knowing” when it comes to family history.
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That’s part of the fun!
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Well, if I wrote fiction….
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Hahaha. Sorry….
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This was like finding hidden treasure.
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How she kept it hidden for so long (and I was a snoop of a child), is a wonder to me. And why did she keep it a secret?
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This is a story right here.
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“The Picture of Dorian Grey”!😉
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There’s one I haven’t read!
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It’s quite good! Been a long time since I read it.
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